Kiss or Drink

The honest take

This works best for receptions under 150 people where most guests know each other—tight enough that everyone hears the shouts and peer pressure actually lands. It falls flat at formal affairs, ballrooms where half the room can’t see the couple, or with couples who’d rather keep PDA minimal.

How it works

Guests take turns (or shout simultaneously, chaos style) calling out “Kiss!” or “Drink!” The couple must comply with whatever is shouted. That’s it. The game runs itself once you brief them. It’s purely about audience control and the couple’s willingness to perform—zero setup required, which is why it survives at weddings.

How to set it up

1. Brief the couple beforehand (rehearsal dinner or day-of in the hour before speeches). “People will shout at you. You can refuse any kiss or drink—it’s your wedding.” Set their expectations so they’re not blindsided.

2. Announce it once during reception (best right before or during toasts, when people are already gathered and buzzed). MC or best man: “Alright, new rule: every time you hear ‘Kiss!’ the couple kisses. Every ‘Drink!’ they drink. You’re in control for the next 15 minutes.” Keep it to a tight window—people lose interest after that.

3. Stock drinks at the couple’s table (no cost if they’re already there; literally just leave extra beer/wine/water nearby). They’ll go through them faster than normal. Budget: $0 if drinks are already included in catering.

4. Have water on hand (prevents the “I’m actually drunk now” problem). Budget: free if you’re refilling from the bar.

Timing: Start this game during dinner or early in the evening while energy is high but people still have food absorption happening. Don’t run it late (past 10pm) when judgment is fully compromised.

What to prepare in advance

• Talk to the couple — confirm they’re comfortable with this. If they hate it, don’t do it.
• Check the venue layout — can most guests see/hear the couple’s table? If they’re isolated, skip it.
• Brief your MC/best man — they need to explain the rules once, clearly, so people understand it’s time-limited and the couple can refuse.
• Prep extra drinks (1-2 extra per person at couple’s table) — you’ll use them.
• Designate an “end time” — decide when the game stops (e.g., “after the first dance” or “for 15 minutes”). Don’t let it drag.

Common mistakes

• Running it too long. 20+ minutes and people stop shouting; it becomes a dead ritual. Keep the window tight (10–15 min max) so it stays fun and loud.
• Not briefing the couple. If they’re surprised and uncomfortable, they’ll look awkward on the dance floor—photos capture it. Pre-game conversation takes 2 minutes and prevents an hour of regret.
• Forgetting about intoxication levels. If the couple is already three drinks in when this starts, they get sloppy faster. Either run it earlier in the night or accept that outcome.
• Doing this at a formal or large reception. 300 people in a ballroom, couple sits at a stage table 40 feet away—half the room won’t understand what’s happening, and shouting feels weird. Know your crowd size and venue acoustics.

Variations by budget

Free: Skip drinks entirely; couple just kisses on each shout. Save the drink budget for literally anything else. Works surprisingly well because the game is about the PDA, not the consumption.

$ (~$10–30): Stock 6–8 extra beers or glasses of wine at their table. Grab from the bar or buy a cheap 6-pack beforehand. Total: ~$15. Enough to make the game last 15 minutes without anyone getting dangerously drunk.

$$ (~$30–100): Upgrade to a dedicated “kiss or drink” station with specialty shots, fun mixers (ginger beer + whiskey for Moscow Mules, etc.), or a small bottle service setup nearby. Let the couple (and nearby guests who want to join) make custom drinks. Budget $50–100 depending on group size. Elevates it from “shout at them” to “we’re making an event of this.”

Works well with

• Couple Trivia — shift the game structure; guests answer questions, couple drinks/kisses based on right/wrong answers
• Reception Toasts — run this right after, while people are already standing and energized
• Bouquet/Garter Toss — another “audience controls couple” moment if you want more of this energy

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